Dear Jenny, thank you for sharing with us such an important part of your life and also for showing to us how much suffering you are feeling because of this situation. The things that have been happening to you for a long time in your life are the repetition of an apparently unsolvable programming. It might seem that the greater your commitment, the lesser the recognition you receive. It also seems that there is no healing for your sister, despite your efforts in helping her at all costs. Please bare in mind that an act of Love cannot be recognized and honored, especially if we project expectations onto it, such as: ” I help you, but I expect that you recognize me as your savior”. Your sister and her sons, are neither bad nor unaware, otherwise they would not have chosen such a turbulent path for their lives. Especially for what concerning Tom, who has taken the road to drug addiction, it probably means that he is expressing a personal malaise that he was not able to heal by himself but, in reality, his malaise is a burden of suffering that weighs on his shoulders and those of his family. In our book “We Are Human Angels” we say that other people are nothing more than mirrors that reflect something about ourselves (either our Light or our shadow) . Related to your situation, we can suggest to you not to feel separated from your relatives, and not to feel they are different from you because of their suffering. You are an angel for them, and you express, through your behavior, a part of their angelic side that they have not been able to fully express in their own lives but that they express through you. At the same time, you can see if they express some aspects of your life that you have already overcome, healed, and transcended.
Each of you can draw, from the well of the other, the lifeblood that can nourish the better part of every one in service to the common good. For now, you can go on helping them outside of any judgement and without saying what is “right” or “wrong” to them. Your next step is that of being thankful to your sister for the opportunity she has given to you to be an angel, because probably they would do the same with you. Tell your sister that you are honored to help her without projecting onto her your expectations of gratitude. Tell her that you feel absolutely sure that they would help you in the same way you’re doing with them if your roles were reversed. To the son that is in the Drug Rehabilitation Centre, tell him that the act of helping him is a source of joy and also tell him that he is an angel, and that he will be healed of his suffering. Tell him that you do not go to visit him in order to feed your ego through his recognition of what you’re doing for him, express gratitude and respect for the burden of suffering that weighs on his shoulders. By honoring his pain, you will heal yourself from the suffering that you express through him. Heal yourself, and he will heal with you: there is no separation between you and him.
You have helped your relatives for a very long time, denying yourself that Love you are giving to them. Do not sever the bond with your sister and look deeply within yourself: you are probably not yet ready to let her go. When you start to love yourself more, they will start to love themselves too, and the healing will be mutual and spontaneous. Only then the bond between souls that have tightened around you so painfully will be slipped, and each of you will be free to live their lives freely with joy in their hearts, out of any burden of suffering. We hug you all and we support you in your healing journey. We wish you joy and bliss.
Your Angels Friends.