file0001011985902Sometimes we receive letters from some of our followers, or from people who have read our book “We Are Human Angels” and, touched by the topics and inspired by what we write, decide to contact us with the purpose of sharing some meaningful parts of their lives, asking for suggestions about their problems and those of their beloved ones. One of these letters, written by a woman, that we received a few days ago, has touched us in a particular fashion because it is related to some of the aspects that we deal with in our book. It is about the vision of others in their role as our mirrors.
In the first part, you will read the woman’s letter and in the following post, you will read our answer.

This woman, whose name and nationality will not be shown (as it is not important to the contest) told us a story about herself and her sister, asking us for suggestions about her behavior in the future. We will call this woman Jenny (it’s a fantasy name, of course). This is her story. At the end, you will also find the answer we gave her. Let us know if this story rings a bell, or if you find that it resonates with you and your life.
Jenny is a single woman with no children. She has financially supported and helped her young sister for almost 30 years. Jenny’s sister got married when she was very young, had three children and, after a short time, lost her husband (became a widow). When Jenny’s sister lost her husband, she immediately fell into a depression, becoming addicted to psychotropic drugs and started to have financial problems, also due to the fact that three of her children have never had a job, relying on the fact that they were all financially supported by Jenny. Since the beginning of this situation, Jenny on one side was helping her sister, and on the other side was complaining about this situation, continuously telling her sister that she wanted some respect for what she was doing for her and expecting that something would change for the better in her sister’s life. Nothing has changed in thirty long years, except that one of Jenny’s sister’s children ( a boy that we will call “Tom”) has become addicted to hard drugs and, after his arrest on drugs charges, was forced into a drug rehabilitation center for a long time. Jenny has taken it upon herself to support and visit him at the center, always expecting that her support could change something for the better, but unfortunately without positive results. Her sister is still living a hand to mouth existence and asking Jenny for money, and Jenny is still giving her money. At the end of last month, Jenny decided to stop her financial support, but her sister reacted to this news with a lot of rage, and now Jenny does not know what to do, because she is worried about the fact that her sister could also commit suicide, due to her sister’s unstable mental state and that Tom is not expressing any wish to recover from his problem. The two other children seem completely absent and seem to have no respect for themselves or their mother. Jenny wrote to us asking: “What should I do about my sister? I am alone, and I also have to look after my old mom; should I stop helping her or should I go on? Please help me.”
You will find our answer in the next post; we share it with you hoping that it may help some of you that might be in a similar situation. We are not arrogant to presume that we have all of the answers and this answer may not be perfect for your situation . It is a suggestion that comes from our hearts to Jenny’s relatives, who are suffering so much.

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